Leadership Principles Walk the Talk #4


Walk the Talk #4


1.     The 100/0 Principle allows you to take responsibility for your relationships without being weighed down by unrealistic expectations. Having realistic expectations of others involved realizing that we're all less than perfect.


2.      We all have infinitely more capacity than we believe. We also need to be champions of building capacity in others, including our children, friends, family, co-workers, and employees. No one should be living up to less than their full potential.
Start by having high expectations for yourself. As you build your capacity, you will naturally inspire the same behavior in others, multiplying your impact.
Remember, great leaders don't create followers. They create more leaders.
Stop underachieving. Hold yourself and others accountable, and commit to living your life to your full potential.
It's time to elevate!


3.      A person struggles. You help. A door needs to be open. You open it. A piece of trash is in your path. You pick it up and throw it away. A child needs an extra attention. You give it. A job needs to be completed. You do it. One more act of kindness a week will add fifty-two moments of inspiration to your year. Push it to two a week and you add more than one hundred. Imagine the possibilities.


4.      The belief that I control my own self-esteem permits me to listen to and hear feedback in a non-defensive way - looking to see if there's something I can learn.Norman Vincent Peale, the great minister of positive thinking, taught me that we have two choices every day: we can feel good about ourselves, or we can feel lousy about ourselves. Why would anyone choose the latter? - Ken Blanchard


5.      We all face adversity in our lives. However, it's not the adversity but how we react to it that determines the joy and happiness in our lives.  "We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather recognizing and appreciating what we do have." -Frederick Keonig


6.      Ask yourself, "What is the most valuable use of my time right now?"  In other words, "What is my biggest frog of all at this moment?"


7.      This is the core question of time management. Answering this question correctly is the key to overcoming procrastination and becoming a highly productive person. Every hour of every day, one task represents the most valuable use of your time at that moment. Your job is to ask yourself this question, over and over again, and to always be working on the answer to it, whatever it is.


8.      A big part of having a positive attitude revolves around living in the present, something most people find increasingly difficult to do. Rather, they often find themselves reflecting on what might have been or having anxiety about what will come next. As one popular saying goes, "If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present." People who live in the present are fundamentally grateful for what they have in that moment. People who are grateful also don't feel that the world owes them anything. They believe it's their responsibility to go out and get it. True gratefulness also creates a deeper connection to others, and it is those relationships that will play such critical roles in your ultimate success and happiness. It's time to elevate! Winning is not a some time thing; it's an all the time thing.


9.      You don't win once in a while; you don't do things right once in a while; you do them right all the time. Winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing....- Vince Lombardi


10.  Some people never realize their full potential simply because they don't recognize it. They go around with feelings of inferiority, assuming that everybody else knows more than they know or is more talented than they are. Because they feel inferior, they hold back on expressing their ideas, and they fail to take the initiative. They believe others are better qualified to act, so they leave the action to others and don't view life through an optimistic lens. This is a terrible waste of human talent. If you feel that way, it's time to take a positive look at yourself. Everybody is good at something. If you can identify your special talent, then you can maximize your contribution to yourself, your company, and your community. The only thing that is holding you back is you.


11.  "I choose to feel good about myself. That way I am more open to learning. If people give me a negative feeling or criticize something I do, I don't interpret what they are saying as meaning that I am a "bad" person. The belief that I control my own self-esteem permits me to listen to and hear their feedback in a non defensive way -- looking to see if there is something I can learn."


12.  "Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy." -Normal Vincent Peale


13.  Be responsible for how you this point of view: you are responsible not only for what you say but for how it was received. No one expects this of you, but it is high standard you can set for yourself. Being easy to work with is part of building trust. Reflecting on these questions will help you identify where you might improve: What conversations do people associate with you? Do you lean toward speaking first or listening? Do people feel that you are truly interested in them? Think about mistakes you might be making that can detract from someone's experience of being with you, such as: Hijacking every conversation, having it be about you. Speaking more often or longer than people can tolerate. Making negative comments about someone who is not present. The goal is to speak and listen in a way that has people looking forward to spending time with you, in a way that leads to trust and respect. A positive attitude is like love in at least one respect: the more you give, the more you get.


14.  It does you absolutely no good to harbor all those good feelings inside yourself. The strength of a positive attitude comes from spreading it around. Think of a time when you have helped someone see the positive side of a problem. Didn't you feel good about being able to help out? Sometimes an encouraging word is the best help you can offer to someone. So don't  disregard the power of sharing positive thinking. Find a deserving soul today and lift them up.


15.  "How simple it is to see that all the worry in the world cannot control the future. How simple it is to see that we can only be happy now. And that there will never be a time that it is not now." - Gerald Jampolsky


16.  Your job, and mine, is to give more and expect less. When we do this, our hearts will be freed from negative judgment, and our happiness and effectiveness will multiply beyond what seems possible.


17.  In business, just as in life, we are going to have to deal with the unexpected, the unanticipated, and the unfair. Those who deal most successfully with all of it are the ones who have the attitude that indeed whatever happens is normal. That doesn't mean that whatever happens is acceptable or pleasant. But it does mean that changes and surprises are a part of life, and we can choose to either roll with the changes or have the changes roll over us. - Joe Calloway


18.  Accidents of birth are beyond your control. If you were born into a poor family without the means to send you to Harvard Business School or to MIT, you can't go back and trade in your parents for a set of millionaires. If you are born with a physical disability, you can't trade in your body for a better model. But remember that the cards you're dealt are less important than the way you play your hand. Circumstances may be beyond your control, but you have full control of your responses to those circumstances. History books are full of success stories about people who focused their energies on the things they could do rather than the things they couldn't. Adversity often leads to abundance. When things get tough, the tough get going.