Walk the Talk # 3


Walk the Talk # 3


1.     If you take a close look at the most successful people in life, you'll find that their strength is not in having the right answers, but in asking the right questions. - John Chancellor


2.     Listening is to hearing as speaking is to talking. Hearing is the natural response of your ears to sound. But listening is using your ears and your mind to absorb and understand what the other person is saying. You hear the noise of traffic, the background music in an elevator, or the jet as it goes over your head. But you listen  for the sound of a ping in your engine, or to the cry of a baby to determine whether it's a cry of distress or one of attention. You listen when someone is giving you directions or when people tell you what's on their mind. Forget about your ability to think faster than another person talks. Everyone has that, but only the foolish use it


3.     Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend ... Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.


4.     People with bad attitudes do not usually feel very good about themselves - or anyone else. Even when they're having a good time, they're not happy. They think to themselves, This won't last. They can come up with too many reasons not to be happy. With a good attitude, you don't dwell on the bad aspects of your life. You allow yourself to enjoy the good times. With a bad attitude, you waste good moments worrying about the past or dreading the future. "The opportunity of a lifetime must be seized within the lifetime of the opportunity" Carpe diem. Seize the day.


5.     A major cause of upset in any domain of life is thwarted expectations. We typically have expectations of how others will act or what they will do. Sometimes those expectations are explicit, such as a clear request for the other person to do something; sometimes the expectations are implicit, that is, unspoken and assumed. Either way, when our expectations of another are not met, we're angry or upset. Thwarted expectations are probably the biggest barrier to strong relationships. The 100/0 Principle allows you to take responsibility for your relationships without being weighed down by unrealistic expectations. Having realistic expectations of others involves realizing that we're all less than perfect.


6.     The first thing is to be honest with yourself. You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself ... Great peacemakers are all people of integrity, of honesty, and humility - Nelson Mandela.


7.     Some people never realize their full potential simply because they don't recognize it. They go around with feelings of inferiority, assuming that everybody else knows more than they know or is more talented than they are. Because they feel inferior, they hold back on expressing ideas, and they fail to take the initiative. They believe others are better qualified to act, so they leave the reaction to others and don't view life through an optimistic lens. This is a terrible waste of human talent. If you feel that way, it's time to take a positive look at yourself. Everybody is good at something. If you identify your special talent, then you can maximize your contribution to yourself, your company, and your community. The only thing that is holding you back is you.


8.     Most people will justify talking about an issue behind someone's back as a way to gain understanding or additional date before confronting the issue. They want to validate their thoughts before taking the issue on. This really is done because ego wants to protect itself, to make sure it is right. The problem with having to be "right" before working through the issue is it means that the other person becomes "wrong." Who do you know that likes to be told they are wrong? Nobody. Every destructive confrontation you have ever been a part of, from an intervention to a feeding frenzy, started with people talking behind each other's backs.




We all recognize the value of experience. It's useful to know what has worked in the past. But I believe that one of the greatest enemies of future success is past success.
If I am successful, that means I know what used to work. I can tell you how to succeed up until today. In business, current success means you can compete and win in markets that no longer exist -because the marketplace changes every day.
What got you to your current level of success just may be what's keeping you from getting to the next level. Be willing to let go of what used to work.
Be open to what will work next.
- Joe Calloway


10.  Have you heard of the concept of energy management? If you are looking for  good Return on Life (ROL), then it's essential that you practice good life management- and that begins with energy management. You've heard of time management: the arrangement of your daily activities in an orderly and efficient manner. Life management looks much farther ahead. Time management means knowing where you want to be at the end of the day and taking orderly steps to get there. Life management means deciding what you want on your tombstone and taking steps to make sure you earn the epitaph. Energy management ensures your battery doesn't run out before you accomplish your goals. It means dreaming a large dream and aligning your actions with the dream. Time management may earn you a great day, a great week, or a great month. But to have a great life, you must be consistently great, and that requires long-term planning carried out with uncommon sense. That doesn't mean that time management is not important. Many people never quite get around to life management because they never master the art of time management. They become so entangled in the minor details of getting through the day that they never get around to the major components of getting through life. Life management will help you put your accomplishments and logical, systematic order.


11.The person who can laugh often and who finds humor in even the most stressful events can keep going when others are falling by the wayside. Learn to look for the humor in every situation- you'll live longer and have a lot more fun.

12.The Power of Written Goals: Clear, written goals have a wonderful effect on your thinking. They motivate you and galvanize you into action. They stimulate your creativity, release your energy, and help you to overcome procrastination as much as any other factor. Goals are the fuel in the furnace of achievement. The bigger your goals and the clearer they are, the more excited you become about achieving them. The more you think about your goals, the greater becomes your inner drive and desire to accomplish them. Think about your goals and review them daily. Every morning when you begin, take action on the most important task you can accomplish to achieve your most important goal at the moment.


13.If you are like many people, you often feel like your life is lacking purpose. While it may not feel like it, every move we make and every action we take, matters not just for us, but for all of us ... and for all time. When one lives a life of permanent purpose, sales figures soar, team chemistry thrives and teenage decisions become wiser and more cautious. And these are just a few examples of what will happen ...


Simply put, when we understand that every action maters, every result of our actions immediately improves!


14.  Our emotions are our least dependable, and often most deceptive, sensing devices.


What the wise old masters have told us in a thousand ways boils down to this: it is easier to act your way into feeling the way you want then it is to feel your way into acting the way you want.


In other words, master your feelings; don't let them master you.


15.  Our emotions are our least dependable, and often most deceptive, sensing devices.


What the wise old masters have told us in a thousand ways boils down to this: it is easier to act your way into feeling the way you want then it is to feel your way into acting the way you want.


In other words, master your feelings; don't let them master you.