STORYPOWER IS A POWERFUL TOOL FOR PARENTING by J Loren Norris

 

STORYPOWER IS A POWERFUL TOOL FOR PARENTING by J Loren Norris

 

“Parenting is challenging enough because kids are kid and we are not. Add to the age gap, the communication gap, the generational differences, the cultural shifts, the educational transitions, the societal upheaval and the genuine and blatant “attack on family” from many corners and you will quickly realize parents are fighting an uphill battle to remain a relevant influence in the life of their children.” J Loren Norris

 

http://www.jlorennorris.com/podcast/storypower-is-a-powerful-tool-for-parenting

 

PARENTING REQUIRES IDENTIFYING DANGER

 

Sometimes the best in thing you can do for your children of any age, is help them to see warning signs of friends who are self destructing. From preschool to college, friends will have as much if not more impact in the choices and life of your children. A friend who is persistent at making poor and destructive choices may be biting, kicking and stealing toys in preschool then dealing drugs, driving while intoxicated and cheating on exams in college. This is a dangerous affiliation to remain in the life of YOUR CHILD. As a parent, a large proportion of your role is to see the signs and know how to redirect the interest and influence of this relationship.

 

PARENTING REQUIRES CONNECTING EMOTIONALLY AND LOGICALLY

 

Making sense of the dangers and the need to move on will be one of the most complicated puzzles you will ever assemble as a parent. After all the effort exerted to inspire your children to be good friends, loyal friends and to help those in need, the task of convincing them to walk away from a friend seems counterintuitive. Demanding they do so will cause them to doubt you more than it will cause them to question their friend. Allowing them to decide on their own may be a “hat tip” to their maturity, but if they have already been investing significantly in that relationship, it may also be a license to continue the course.

 

Explaining to them the dangers which they cannot a see from where they are, will demand of you some artful communication skills. Your experiences, laced into a relatable story, filled with emotional triggers they can share, will be sharp and vivid in their imagination and will help them to remember the point, the illustration and the warning when the time comes to TAKE ACTION or suffer the consequences of being anchored to a destructive relationship.

 

STORYPOWER IS THE READ/ WRITE TOOL YOU NEED

 

Learning how to bridge the gaps, connect across gender and generational differences and “meet them where they are” is generally the work of therapists, but parents have access to the same skills through STORIES. Sharing an experience they can relate to with the real emotion you felt at the time you went through the experience will allow them to feel what you felt.

 

A rape victim sharing the terror, fear, anger and desperation of their assault will connect with the emotional sense of justice, fairness, fear and justified anger with anyone who has a heart. That story properly fitted with the DANGER SIGNS of a potentially abusive partner will allow the lesson to remain firmly planted in the mind of your child. Telling of your history is important, but caution and wisdom must be applied to selecting the right story and crafting it in a way to make the point without being 45 minutes of TMI.