BEHOLDEN: New message 12-10-18 by J Loren Norris Copyright 2018 Tell It Like It Is, Inc.

BEHOLDEN: New message 12-10-18 by J Loren Norris Copyright 2018 Tell It Like It Is, Inc.}


   Who do you OWE for favor(s) you have received?

   If you believe the answer is no one, you have simply deceived yourself.

   Pay attention to the following story and see if you can better relate to the obligations we sometimes find ourself unintentionally committing to.

- On our way to a meeting Karin and I stopped into Starbucks. We got a couple of pretzels, a couple of hot drinks and a large ice water. On the way out, we both grabbed a hot drink, we both grabbed a pretzel. We both looked at the water and looked at each other and smiled.

   For the 25 years we have been together I have always made a conscious effort to open her door. I open car doors, doors to the church, the mall or the dollar store, doors to the house, even doors into a room. In 25 years she might have opened a door a dozen times, if I am present and able to open it for her. ONLY BECAUSE, I recognize opening doors for her as a way to honor her presence in my life. It is a simple and often effortless gesture to demonstrate my love and adoration for her, nonverbally.

   I said to her if “I’m gonna open doors for you, you’re gonna have to carry my water.” As we walked across the parking lot it hit me just how profound that arrangement is in leadership, business, politics, and ministry.

   I also realized that’s a prophetic statement of promise from God.  If he’s going to open doors for us we have to carry his water, his message, his burden and not our own if he’s handling the doors we are going have to handle the water””””   {this incident happened 12-9-18 and was the content of Leading Leaders Podcast 12-10-18  }

   Leaders are always beholden to someone. The power of great leadership rests in choosing who that someone will be.





·        Owing thanks or having a duty to someone in return for help or a service.

·        Synonyms: indebted, in someone's debt, obligated, under an obligation;

·        "I don't like to be beholden to anybody" (straight from the dictionary with the definition)



   “Next to “judge not lest you be judged” the “why do you ‘sell the gospel?’” argument is one of the most broadly used arguments to throw a hand in the face of teachers, preachers and evangelists.” J Loren Norris 


   “I’m not just sounding off because I’m irritated. This is all written in the scriptural law. Moses wrote, “Don’t muzzle an ox to keep it from eating the grain when it’s threshing.” Do you think Moses’ primary concern was the care of farm animals? Don’t you think his concern extends to us? Of course. Farmers plow and thresh expecting something when the crop comes in. So if we have planted spiritual seed among you, is it out of line to expect a meal or two from you? Others demand plenty from you in these ways. Don’t we who have never demanded deserve even more? But we’re not going to start demanding now what we’ve always had a perfect right to. Our decision all along has been to put up with anything rather than to get in the way or detract from the Message of Christ. All I’m concerned with right now is that you not use our decision to take advantage of others, depriving them of what is rightly theirs. You know, don’t you, that it’s always been taken for granted that those who work in the Temple live off the proceeds of the Temple, and that those who offer sacrifices at the altar eat their meals from what has been sacrificed? Along the same lines, the Master directed that those who spread the Message be supported by those who believe the Message.”

1 Corinthians 9:12-14 MSG

“I wonder, did I make a bad mistake in proclaiming God’s Message to you without asking for something in return, serving you free of charge so that you wouldn’t be inconvenienced by me? It turns out that the other churches paid my way so that you could have a free ride. Not once during the time I lived among you did anyone have to lift a finger to help me out. My needs were always supplied by the believers from Macedonia province. I was careful never to be a burden to you, and I never will be, you can count on it. With Christ as my witness, it’s a point of honor with me, and I’m not going to keep it quiet just to protect you from what the neighbors will think. It’s not that I don’t love you; God knows I do. I’m just trying to keep things open and honest between us. And I’m not changing my position on this. I’d die before taking your money. I’m giving nobody grounds for lumping me in with those money-grubbing “preachers,” vaunting themselves as something special. They’re a sorry bunch—pseudo-apostles, lying preachers, crooked workers—posing as Christ’s agents but sham to the core. And no wonder! Satan does it all the time, dressing up as a beautiful angel of light. So it shouldn’t surprise us when his servants masquerade as servants of God. But they’re not getting by with anything. They’ll pay for it in the end.”

2 Corinthians 11:7-12 MSG

Paul is speaking/ writing directly to the indulgent and entitled believers at Corinth. Similarity might seem ironic? So also the struggles they had to live lives of power filled purity and faith.

We are beholden to the Gospel of Jesus Christ not to the people we deliver it to.

“You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Since we have now been justified by his blood, how much more shall we be saved from God’s wrath through him! For if, while we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life! Not only is this so, but we also boast in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”

Romans 5:6-11 NIV


“IF He opens the doors, we must carry the water.” We must minister by serving others for their sake, not our fame, fortune or status.

1. IN THE SPIRIT - serving with the same attitude Jesus did toward hurting people and false teachers. Stephen did. Paul eventually got there. Even the sword wielding, lying, mocking, denying, accusing Peter, filled with the Holy Spirit shared the attitude of Christ with the man at the gate called beautiful. So dripped Peter with the Holy Ghost that people would line up the lame and sick in the path he would walk so the shadow cast by him would bring healing and wholeness.

2. BY THE SPIRIT - serving in the competence given to us by Christ (2 Cor 3:5) with Holy Ghost potential and power not human intellect and pretense. Look Peter could NOT have made his shadow to heal someone. Only God! “IF IM GOING TO OPEN DOORS FOR YOU. YOU WILL HAVE TO CARRY MY WATER “

3. THROUGH THE SPIRIT - serving who He wants to, when He wants to, where He wants to because His guidance and His power always come together “I only say what the father says. I only do what I see the Father do.” We are beholden to do His bidding. Serving at His beck and call. “IF IM GOING TO OPEN DOORS FOR YOU. YOU WILL HAVE TO CARRY MY WATER “


·        What do you want?

·        Who is your heart broken for?

·        What is your solution for their need?

What do you want?

·        Speaks to will, calling, desires, cravings - is it for you? Is it for others? Is it for the cause of Christ?

·        What does success look like to you? Material, spiritual, emotional?

·        Ref. Vision exercise in Insuperable and TSTL Coaching materials

Who is your heart broken for?

·        Speaks to not level maturity - concentric circles center is you, next is those you care most about (friends and family), next is the rest of the world, finally, the unlovable

·        Paul said, like Christ, if I could give everything to insure your eternity I would, who would we weep over? Is the life of an unknown person motivation enough to sacrifice everything?

·        Which specific “avatar” or people group most touches our heart, for Christ it was Jerusalem, - he even asked us to “go there first”

What is your proposed/ purposed solution for them?

·        Speaks to your unique callings, passions and gifting

·        A solution is of universal application - anyone who fits this “avatar” could apply this solution and it would work for them

·        Speaks to your purpose on earth, your assignment

·        Your SOLUTION is both your “problem to solve” and you “opportunity to serve”

·        We are all called to minister, to share the good new of the Kingdom, we are all equipped, wired, prepared through experiences differently - therefore we will connect with different folks